The ART of being RUDE

Have you got family or friends who have just started at University? Ever tried to give them self defence tips or advice, I’m not saying that teenagers think they “know it all” they just prefer information from a source that they’re used to such as YouTube, blogs or their friends.

Maybe consider sharing this self defence advice with them then.

Have you got an image of a “criminal” in your head? Lose it.

Remember in the Addams family movie, Wednesday Addams was asked why she isn’t dressed up for Halloween. “I’m a homicidal maniac,” she deadpans. “They look just like everyone else.”

It’s a sad fact that you’re more likely to be the victim from someone you kinda already know. If you’re going to university or you’ve just started your first term. Have fun, but practise spotting the behaviour or attitudes that are not typical. A key flag is when someone is using guilt to encourage you to act in a certain way or ignoring your physical boundaries?

For me, understanding boundaries and how to enforce them is a great tool to teach our children. I think of a boundary as a physical and an emotional line that separates us from other people.

We can decide who to let in and who to keep out.

In our Krav Maga classes we talk about how we’re socialised from a young age to be polite. We often feel that enforcing a boundary is being rude. We’re not born with boundaries, we’re taught and learn them so I do think it’s a parents responsibility to have set a clear example of where enforcing them is not toxic.

Have you been on holiday when someone is trying to sell you time-share and tries to get very close into your personal space. How did you react if they do not respond to your “not interested response”. Our children learn by watching us as well as what they adopt from their friends, so set the best example and acknowledge your kids when they do the same too.

setting a boundaryFood for thought, but people often blur the lines of a boundary when they are worried about fitting in. Your boundaries are your boundaries and there is no compromise here.

This is the hard part to accept, but if someone genuinely has your safety and comfort at heart. They not only back off immediately when told to do so, they’ll also not be pi$$ed with you if you were wrong about their intentions. If someone does not get back when you tell them, then what are they building upto?

If you make a threat when telling someone to keep back, be prepared to enforce it and do so to the best of your ability.

The last tip is keep any good coffe in your room, everyone nicks it.

These are just my views, West Coast Krav Maga